A Killing Root
I wrote this piece as a Facebook status, but have received such strong and positive responses, thought I would reprint it here since, a “root” of bitterness is an issue in many marriage and families. I hope it will be helpful.
Be careful, for an embittered spirit is a plague like no other, and if you become infected with it, the life in you can be snuffed out by it. It is frightfully contagious and by it many are defiled. It is worse than any cancer, relentless in its destructive swath, wiping out friendships, annihilating …families, and destroying any and all joy that lies in its path.
By it great works in God’s people have been snuffed out, revival is squelched, and the unity of the Body of Christ turned to ugly bickering and putrid rancor.
Bitterness is a vile poison that that numbs reason turns compassion in to merciless hatred, causing some to emotionally murder the ones they love the most while laying the blame at the feet of the victim of our anger.
Oh, the regret that weighs down the heart of the bitter man, and yet even as the wounds fester and deepen, the bitterness hangs on like a relentless parasite, sucking the very life out of anything that might otherwise offer joy or peace. Finally, you become what you always believed you were – a victim. But, a victim betrayed by your own inability to forgive the perceived failure of those around you; finding yourself hardened, embittered, and alone.
If you find yourself becoming the victim of unrelenting bitterness, there is only one cure and you must seek it out as quickly as possible – you must ask The Lord Jesus for the gift of a new heart, soft and gentle, and untarnished by the venom of bitterness, a fitting replacement for that hardened and shriveled lump that once was a heart, but is now only a vial of seething anger and resentment.
Do not believe the lie that tells you “If only others would change, I would not be so bitter.” For indeed, their change would do nothing to save your heart. It is not someone else that must change, but I must be changed by the deep richness of God’s mercy and grace.